Summer songs are like summer love – they make everything a little buzzier. Some make you want to dance (even if you’re alone in your room), some make you remember a moment, or person, from summers past. The best make your heart – and your feet – skip a beat.
We asked Jysters to share the songs that are doing it for them this summer. Here’s some of what we heard – and what we’ll be listening to:
Formation (Because, well, it’s Beyoncé, and you might as well just give in.)
Basketball (Lil Bow Wow. Back in the day before lost the Lil.)
Summertime (DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. A little nostalgia for Will Smith’s early days, much?)
Can’t Stop the Feeling (Justin Timberlake. C’mon, what’s summer without a little JT?!?)
Running Out of Moonlight (Randy Hauser. Because we are ready to roll down the windows.)
Walking on Sunshine (Katrina and the Waves. We dare you not to get up move!)
The Jyst: Wanna know which song got the most votes? Go to Jyst to find out – and tell us what you’re listening to this summer.
There are certain irrefutable rules when it comes to office romances. Do not date your boss. Do not date anyone who reports to you. The power dynamics, the risk of sexual harassment, the potential law suits, the career-killing opportunities are all self-evident. (We hope.) Beyond that the rules get murky. No less an authority the Harvard Business Review is a bit muddled by the question.
The truth is, many of us spend large chunks of our waking hours at work – and meeting romantic partners other ways can be hard. When it comes to love, as in real estate, location is everything. It’s not surprising, then, that so many questions on Jyst have to do with dating co-workers. The risk/reward equation is a toughie: The chance to meet the love your life vs the potential for having to face someone everyday who you dumped/got dumped by. The gossip of co-workers vs the very real desire you feel. Office romances are a minefield, but does that mean you should never wade in? Opinions on Jyst vary.
Have you ever dating someone at work? Share your experience – and advice – on Jyst.
They cheated. Or maybe they cheated. They want forgiveness. They want you to trust them again. Should you forgive, forget or flame out? As the great Beyoncé asks, “What’s worse, looking crazy or jealous?” (What’s best: Creating killer music. But that’s another story.)
The truth is, there is no single right answer when it comes to forgiving betrayal. Some people work through it. Some can’t. The only universality is that it hurts like hell – and living in a fog of suspicion is toxic.
One Jyst user posted: “I found my husband had been calling and texting a woman from work. I confronted him and he promised to stop but I still get the urge to put a spying app on his phone. Is that bad?” Once again, we turn to the Bible of Bey (yeah, we’ll admit it, we’re obsessed). “You can taste dishonesty, it’s all over your breath as you pass it off so cavalier…My lonely ear/Pressed against the walls of your world.”
Other a Jysters wonder how to trust again after their SO admits to an affair and begs forgiveness. Is two years of a relationship worth one lapse? Is ten? The math is different for everyone.
The Jyst: Users all agree that if you are involved with a chronic cheater, you should leave. Immediately. But decisions are split (life and love are complicated, after all) when it comes to a single lapse. What do you think? Let us know on Jyst.
At Jyst, we are so not about the rules. And we believe the best source comes from other women who have or are going through similar situations – no judgments, all empathy. That said, sometimes it’s worth checking out what the relationship pros have to say. Here are three very different takes on dating and relationship advice. Do you have a favorite Love Guru? Let us know at @ijyst.
From The Betches:
I Had a Nice Time and Other Lies: How to Find Love & Shi*t Like That
By The Betches
The Promise: “In the age of Tinder, Hinge, or any other dating app that matches you with randos, the dating game has grown complex and confusing. Cue the Betches… to help you win the most important battle a betch can face.”
From The Dating Coach:
How to Date Like a Grownup
By Lisa Daily
From The Dating Coach:
The Promise: “Lisa Daily can tell you why he didn’t call, the color you should never wear on a first date, and even where to snoop for evidence if you think your guy’s been fooling around.”
From The Love Geek (i.e. TED Books!)
The Mathematics of Love: Patterns, Proofs, and the Search
By Hannah Fry
The Promise: “In this must-have for anyone who wants to better understand their love life, a mathematician pulls back the curtain and reveals the hidden patterns—from dating sites to divorce, sex to marriage—behind the rituals of love.”